[Image: Illustration of a person dressed like some sort of dominatrix soldier from a comic. The speech bubble reads, “You’ve got a vagina! I like that in a man!”]
trufax. i like vaginas. i like men. i wind up with just no complaints whatsoever when the two converge. i also like women and boobs and cocks and balls and assholes and prostates, especially prostates. i also like ears and fingertips and the insides of elbows and knees and shoulders and bellies and necks. i like bodies and all the fabulous things bodies can do, and i like the brain inside the body and all the ways i can make that brain light up like a pinball game by touching and talking and kissing. i think i’m pretty lucky for that.
Rape culture is telling girls and women to be careful about what you wear, how you wear it, how you carry yourself, where you walk, when you walk there, with whom you walk, whom you trust, what you do, where you do it, with whom you do it, what you drink, how much you drink, whether you make eye contact, if you’re alone, if you’re with a stranger, if you’re in a group, if you’re in a group of strangers, if it’s dark, if the area is unfamiliar, if you’re carrying something, how you carry it, what kind of shoes you’re wearing in case you have to run, what kind of purse you carry, what jewelry you wear, what time it is, what street it is, what environment it is, how many people you sleep with, what kind of people you sleep with, who your friends are, to whom you give your number, who’s around when the delivery guy comes, to get an apartment where you can see who’s at the door before they can see you, to check before you open the door to the delivery guy, to own a dog or a dog-sound-making machine, to get a roommate, to take self-defense, to always be alert always pay attention always watch your back always be aware of your surroundings and never let your guard down for a moment lest you be sexually assaulted and if you are and didn’t follow all the rules it’s your fault.
I might just copy and paste this so I can have this perfect answer ready when people say things like “but how does this “rape culture” actually affect women?” (via holdmecloser-tonydanza)
This. THIS. Read it. Now read it again. Now the next time you victim-blame, or rag on women for any of the above, you can kindly pull your lip over your head and swallow.